In times past the groom was expected to arrange and pay for the honeymoon himself. As we discussed in our article on groom duties however, honeymoon planning is now very much considered a joint exercise. That being said, your fiancée probably has a million and one other things on her mind in the months leading up to the wedding, so you should take it upon yourself to do grab the honeymoon bull by the horns and put in most of the tedious leg-work yourself.
In order to help you get to grips with sorting out the holiday of a lifetime, the Groom List has put together the following handy bits of advice.
Get on it early
We have all heard of great last minute bargains on holidays but you and your bride are going to have a lot of other very important things to think about in the days and weeks before the wedding. Focusing much needed energy on trying to book your honeymoon in the immediate run up to the big day may prove to be a fatal error. Not only will the honeymoon suffer but other parts of your wedding might as well.
There are plenty of great discounts available on early bookings as well, and the choice of what’s on offer will be much broader. There really is no excuse.
Destination, destination, destination
Attempting the latter stages of honeymoon planning can be tricky unless you have at least a rough idea of where in the world you want to go. Take some time discussing destinations with your fiancée and determine what it is you want to get out of your honeymoon: Luxurious beaches? Mountain trekking? Tropical spas? Exciting cities?
Once you know what you want, use our helpful month-by month guide to work out where in the world fits the bill at the right time of year.
How soon after the wedding
Traditionally a newly married couple would spend the wedding night at home (or more typically at the reception venue) before jetting off on honeymoon the next day. This is probably how a large number of newlyweds still do things, however perhaps you should think about giving yourself a clear day off after the wedding to relax and calm down. You will no doubt be absolutely exhausted after all the anxiety and partying of the day before and having to travel to a far flung destination may not leave you (and more importantly, your wife) in the best of moods. Hanging on for a couple of days will allow you to soak in that post-wedding buzz before enduring the misery that is international travel.
It is also becoming increasingly common for couples to wait several weeks or even months before going on their honeymoon. This could be because the place they want to go to is not compatible with the timing of their wedding (the Caribbean hurricane season from June to September for example); or that they could not get time off work; or that they have agreed to not start saving for the honeymoon until after the wedding. Whilst this is certainly an option for you, many couples who do this report that the holiday – although fantastic – did not have the same feeling of excitement and romance that a more traditional honeymoon might have.
You [are supposed to] only get one honeymoon in your lifetime, so to make the most of it the Groom List thinks you should keep it as close to the wedding as you are able.
Tell your boss
Once you have planned where and when you are going you need to make sure you get a suitable amount of time off work. Chances are you will want to take a bit of time off before the wedding as well as for the honeymoon. Typically this means you could be taking up to three weeks of holiday, which is a lot to ask any boss for. Most employers will be fairly accommodating – and may even make a special allowance – considering it is for your wedding and honeymoon, but they will only be so generous if you tell them far enough in advance. No boss likes being told their star employee won’t be around for the next month.
Now that we have covered off some of the basics you are about ready to start visiting some travel agents and specialist honeymoon planners. Look out for the Groom List guide to getting the honeymoon details right, coming soon.